A few weeks ago, I was with a friend who asked in a very matter-of-fact way how was feeling about not knowing if we're having a boy or girl. I loved her non-judgmental and loving way of asking.
So many people look at me like I'm crazy when they ask if it's a boy or girl and I say "I don't know." It is refreshing when someone praises the decision or genuinely inquires.
Our due date is six weeks from today and I have certainly thought it would be so much easier to know if I'll be looking for headbands (for a girl) or caps (for a boy). But I am grateful we made the decision to wait to find out when we meet the little one face-to-face.
Sure, it's hard and as the date gets closer I find it somewhat more challenging. I did buy two newborn outfits and will wash both of them and pack them in my hospital bag. I am not against dressing a girl in pink (though I think my girly taste is pretty tame) or anything like that.
The reasons we have chosen to wait have to do primarily with practicality.
- We will be able to re-use a lot of items with the next baby (i.e. we won't have a pink baby bath)
- It delays gender stereotyping
- We want to wait to name the baby when we see it face to face
- I still get to do some shopping once the little one arrives
- How many surprises are left in life? I like being a little counter-cultural and being the one who doesn't know
So many people ask how we can stand it or say "I could never do that, I'm too much of a planner." I find such comments funny because I'm a total planner and as much as it can be annoying to not know (buying things online is the hardest for me), I love looking forward to the surprise. I think it will also be a nice distraction in labor.
Can you imagine not knowing or have you done so before?