Thursday, June 7, 2012

balancing each other

On Sunday morning, we visited a neighboring church where several long-time friends worship and then attended a cookout hosted by the church afterward. The hours passed, catching up with old friends and meeting lots of new people. Once we left, my husband and I walked several blocks to our car. The day was overcast and chilly, but we hadn't dressed warm enough and forgot our rain jackets. Thankfully it never did more than sprinkle in the two hours we were outside. When I finally sat down in the car, I felt relief as I looked at the clock and realized the two hours ahead to recharge before heading to our own church service and then a couple's dinner.
the mister is always making friends
I glanced over at my husband to catch him grinning. I could see the energy bouncing off of him. He caught my eye and said "what's up?" He knew I was enjoying this moment too much not to share it. I collected my thoughts and chose my words carefully, "you feel energized, while I feel exhausted." He smiled in agreement "yeah, I can see how that kind of situation would be draining on you." I was so grateful he understood. I love it when he gets me like that.

I'm not the world's biggest introvert by any means. I can seem shy in new situations, but don't hesitate to take charge when it's my role. I am boarder line introversion / extroversion when taking Myers-Briggs. I've taken the personality test three times and that's the only area that fluctuated; all others haven't changed. I consider myself an introvert because I get energy from downtime, and often alone time, rather than being with people.
I prefer a quiet evening at home to blog or catch up on TV
Relationships balance us. Is your partner the opposite when it comes to your level of introversion / extroversion? My husband and I don't spend a lot of time discussing our preferences, but we are aware of what the other needs and try to be sensitive to it. As summer is approaches, routines tend to change with the season. I want to be intentional about the ways I rest and recharge and not simply do what's comfortable.

How does being an introvert / extrovert influence your relationships?
{I'm linking with Manda Jane for Thought for Thursday}

6 comments:

  1. I used to think I was an introvert but have realized over the last couple of years that I get energized after being with people. I was right on the border when I took the myers-briggs but that was so many years ago. It would be interesting to take it again. My hubby is more introverted but in ways he's more social than me.

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  3. We are SO like that :-) My husband is a major extrovert and LOVES meeting new people and being with people all the time. I love people and I like meeting new people with him, but sometimes when we're making plans and he says "do you want to invite so and so?" I would prefer for just the two of us to go. But we try to balance and do some of both, which I think is GREAT for us!

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  4. thanks so much for linking up! David is the introvert and I'm the extrovert. My Mom says that we are perfect for each other - the traits he isn't as strong in, I make up for - and vice versa. We definitely balance each other out!

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  5. SO true! oh my goodness. YES. my husband and i balance each other out so much... i don't know what i'd do without him

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  6. I can totally relate to this!! I'm right on the border between introvert/extrovert, but I definitely consider myself introverted. My husband is even more introverted than me, though :)

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